Oftentimes humility is confused with humiliation. Well, sometimes it takes a harsh leveling of the ego in order to reach that point, but true humility is nothing more than the ability to see the truth. Through the filters of self we often see the facts as they relate to those around us: “I am better than you… I am worse than you.” In the grand scheme of the universe, truth is neutral; it has no “good” or “bad” label attached to it. It’s only when we interject the ego, the sense of self and separation, does the truth take on a jaded or boastful tone.
I had a long night tonight. I spoke and told my story in front of a room full of wonderful people whom I respect dearly. The story was full of truths about me and my journey up to this point, and I received nothing but warmth and kindness in return. In this same evening I received an anonymous note that was clearly meant to hurt me. It too was full of truths about me. So why would this second set of truths be classified as injurious? An ego that is alive and thriving in all its self-centeredness takes offense to such blatant stabs at accuracy. But with true humility comes a feeling of right-sizedness. I am not better, nor am I worse, than any other human being who carries their own neutral truths. I am a set of circumstances. A collection of facts. A culmination of experiences. And the freedom of humility is the ability to tell my competitive ego that it has no jurisdiction here.